I've been vague about my past and my present.
I've tried to show a brave face and keep the past there...
But things have a way of coming back to you...especially if you try to keep them buried.
You can't escape your past at all....not one little bit.
I forgave...that's not the problem.
The problem is people keep repeating the past...even if they don't try to.
When I was 14, my parents both admitted they didn't want me. I was a sophmore in high school and homeless for the first time. I traveled from house to house, sometimes with only the clothes on my back and my school books. It took me 25 years to mend fences with my mom, and I'm still working on it with my dad. Yes, I forgave them a long time ago for what they did, but the relationships take longer to heal.
Fast forward to this past winter when I moved into my van. I had been working on my relationship with my mom for the past five years...she kept begging me to move in, she didn't want to see me houseless. It was too cold, and she was worried about me. She asked me to move in with her, so I thought I could trust her and I did.
Now, I'm a firm believer in things happening for a reason...and maybe I am meant to learn something from all this, but I still don't know what that is, but I will learn it...even if I don't know I'm learning it.
Things were good for a while...but then her other caregiver decided that she didn't like me, maybe, that she didn't want me around...I'm still trying to figure that one out. She manipulated my mother into thinking that I was stealing from her, and that's one thing that doesn't ever cross my mind.
So, what happens...well...that's a whole other can of worms...that got opened. I sew and craft. I also got invited to a music festival over Halloween weekend...so as a late birthday present I was told to go...if I had only known...
I came back, and all my sewing supplies, everything was tossed into a box and put right on the inside of my bedroom door. Then, the other caregiver took a picture (maybe plenty of them) of the mess....YES, I CAME BACK TO A HUGE MESS.
So, I was understanably upset after having to clean the mess, and also taking care of my mom because I was told that there would be people going by and taking care of her...no one did.
The next day, it started...I fell and hurt my wrist...really bad sprain. On that Tuesday, my mom begged me to go to the ER for it, which I finally did. During that trip to the ER, apparently she hired not one, but TWO more caregivers...and wasn't going to tell me I was out of a job until after I had taken to her appointment that day...talk about used!!!
So, the other caregiver decided that I was dangerous, and called her husband over...and that's when the bullying and harassment began...The things that happened, the things that were said...the things that were allowed to happen...I can't believe that a mother would allow that to happen to her daughter.
So, I happily volunteered to leave as soon as I got paid...I had put every penny I had into the household, so I didn't have any money...you would think if they want someone to leave they wouldn't interfere with them leaving...boy...wrong again.
So, I retreated to my room, too scared to come out....not allowed to eat...nothing...YES, I WENT HUNGRY FOR OVER A WEEK BECAUSE MY MOTHER WOULDN'T ALLOW ME TO EAT THE FOOD I BOUGHT!!!
The day before I got paid, they tried to have my van towed. I literally said I would push it out into the street if I couldn't get it started...thank God it started and I moved it to the next parking lot, but SERIOUSLY???? Tow my only means of moving out of your house???
So, I know this is being really stubborn, but...I decided I'm not going to leave right away. They had already called the landlord to have me evicted, I'm going to "stay" there until I have a court order saying I have to leave...which will happen in a couple of weeks but it allows me time to move my stuff the right way.
So, after all this, I'm in my van again...and my trust is BROKEN. My van is my safe place...I feel secure there. IT'S MY CHOICE!!!
A year ago, when I was faced with living in my van, I was scared...uncertain. Today, I am happy I'm in my van, though I do need to do a little more to make it home. First thing is a bed...sleeping on the floor of the van is hard on my back...LOL and it's very hard to get up in the morning. I have a warm sleeping bag, it may not be the best, and I do have to bundle, but I stayed warm when it got down to freezing last night. I have plans to leave my safety zone and explore the state, then the US. I plan on joining my fellow van dwellers in January. I plan on making this blog more about my adventures, because this life is an adventure. It may be crazy and hectic, but no one will be able to hurt me anymore!!!!!